Thursday, September 25, 2008

Can I Date Without Sex?

Sex is an act between two consenting adults and if any of the partner does it against the will of the other, then it becomes rape. Sex can also be seen as a mutual agreement between two matured mind.
Sex is a terrific experience that has been ordained by God. It becomes unholy. unlawful, immoral when it is practised pre-maritally. Pre-marital sex has now become a common phenomenon among young people, that it is seen as a sign of love. There has been so many campaigns against sex before marriage, even the Holy books clearly kicked against it, yet single men and women ignorantly and blindfoldedlygo into pre-marital sex.
This argument on pre-marital sex could go on till infinity, because there are a million and one single men and women out there, who believe they must have sex with whoever they are dating. To many people sex is a way of showing commitment, a sign of love and pleasure.
So many young people have misconsrtued the idea of sex and many singles believe it is an act of love. Most singles fail to realise that sex is not love and love is not sex.
There are so many reasons why single men and women should stay out of pre-marital sex until they are married. One of the reasons is that; 1. Pre-marital sex is a sin before God Almighty. God supports and encourages sex when it is being practise in marriage. 2. Another reason against pre-marital sex is the contraction of deadly infections or sexually transmitted diseases. 3. Pre-marital sex also leads to unwanted pregnancy.
To some people the two consequences above could be avoided by practising safe sex. But above all God Almighty frowns at sex before marriage.
Often curiosity pushes one to sex. It starts with the question; What do they have underneath the clothes? Also, the irresistible femine endowment in women attracts some men for sex.
For most men, it is for pleasure and for a few women, it is out of love. Gone are the days when anyone would be forced to practise no marriage no sex relationship.
Although some churches and other religious groups preach against sex before marriage, the number of young men and women involved in sex on daily basis in religious organisations is alarming.
But, is it possible to date without sex? That is a question that will be mutually answered by two persons involved in the affair and not a counsellor.
Seyi Adeniyi
www.seyiadeniyi.blogspot.com

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